S1:E25 – Mortgage After Divorce: Credit Repair, Home Buying & Financial Recovery with Rebecca Richardson, The Mortgage Mentor

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3 months ago

S1:E24 – Divorcing a Narcissist? Paulette Rigo's Strategies to Outsmart a Difficult Spouse and Save $45K–$70K in Legal Fees

Divorce recovery, narcissistic abuse recovery, and divorcing a narcissist — Paulette Rigo shares the no-BS strategies for high conflict divorce that have saved her clients $45,000–$70,000 and years of their lives.

If your divorce is spiraling out of control, there's a reason — and it has nothing to do with your attorney. It's because you're mixing your Bowl of Emotions with your Spreadsheet, and those two things can never coexist in the same conversation.

Paulette Rigo is a Certified Divorce Coach, ADR Credentialed Private Mediator, Certified Divorce Specialist, and founder of the Better Divorce Academy. She didn't learn this in a classroom. She survived an 8.5-year fully litigated divorce — including a 12-day trial and a 4-year appeal all the way to the State Supreme Court. Then she studied 272 divorce cases around her and built a framework that works even when your spouse is a narcissist, a liar, or completely unwilling to cooperate.

In this episode, Paulette breaks down the two non-negotiable strategies for anyone divorcing a difficult or high-conflict spouse: Radical Acceptance (believing your ex truly IS who they are — and stopping the exhausting fight to prove otherwise) and Realistic Expectations (understanding that narcissists are actually predictable — once you know the pattern, you can outmaneuver them). She also explains why mediation almost always fails with narcissists, how to calculate your ROI on litigation before spending a dollar you'll never recover, and why your divorce coach — not your attorney — is your most powerful strategic weapon.

Whether you're early in the process or knee-deep in a custody battle, this episode hands you the blueprint to stop reacting and start moving with strategy, composure, and power.

In this episode:

The "Bowl of Emotions vs. Spreadsheet" framework that changes everything
Why leaving an abusive marriage often makes things worse first — and how to prepare
Radical Acceptance: the #1 mindset shift for divorcing a difficult person
Why narcissists are predictable — and how to use that against them
How to calculate your ROI on litigation before fighting a battle you can't win
The hidden step before mediation, most people skip entirely
Why your attorney is NOT your advocate — and whose job it actually is
How Paulette's clients save an average of $45,000–$70,000 and 8–22 months

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About Paulette Rigo: Paulette Rigo is a Certified Divorce Coach, ADR Credentialed Private Mediator, Certified Divorce Specialist, Certified Amicable Divorce Professional, and founder of the Better Divorce Academy. She is the author of the Better Divorce Blueprint and host of the Better Divorce Podcast. After navigating an 8.5-year litigated divorce including a 12-day trial and a 4-year State Supreme Court appeal, Paulette built a proven framework that helps clients in long-term, high-asset, and high-conflict divorces save tens of thousands and move forward with clarity and power.

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Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

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4 months ago

S1:E23 – Midlife Reinvention: From Abusive Marriage & $150K Debt to Business Empire | Margarita Eberline

Midlife reinvention isn't a concept for Margarita Eberline — it's a survival story. She left an abusive marriage while raising five children, faced $150K in debt, lost her business, battled suicidal thoughts, and started over after the divorce with nothing but a mindset coach, one courageous decision, and a refusal to let suffering be her final chapter. Today, she's the founder of Marketing Boss, a thriving data-driven marketing firm serving law firms and business owners across the country.

In this episode of Divorcing Strong, host Becky Sampson sits down with Margarita to map every step of her journey from rock bottom to empire — so you can borrow her blueprint for starting over after divorce, no matter how far down you feel right now.

This isn't just a story of divorce recovery. It's a masterclass in divorce after 40, rebuilding after divorce with debt, single mom entrepreneurship, and the decision to choose yourself when every system — legal, financial, and emotional — feels stacked against you.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

✅ How Margarita navigated a simultaneous business dissolution AND personal divorce — with a newborn and four other children at home

✅ The moment she hit rock bottom and the one phone call that became her lifeline (mindset coaching changed everything)

✅ The "God drop" moment: how she found her divorce attorney at a conference when she was ready to go pro se because she couldn't afford legal help

✅ The hardest decision she made — leaving the marital home — and what she would do completely differently today

✅ Why she stayed in a toxic marriage longer than she should have, and the guilt-driven legal mistakes that cost her in court

✅ The therapy breakthrough that ended her "provider OR present mom" battle — and how the word "AND" transformed her entire identity

✅ How she built Marketing Boss from scratch as a single mom of five, and why her clients are primarily law firms and business owners

✅ Why Margarita still believes in marriage — and exactly where she draws the line between "working on it" and walking away

✅ Her definition of Divorcing Strong: "Doing it with love — and being happy, being joyful."

MARGARITA'S BIGGEST LESSONS FOR DIVORCEES:

Do NOT leave the marital home prematurely — it has legal and custody consequences
Hire a divorce attorney — even if you have to ask for help to find one
Don't let guilt dictate your legal strategy — your ex's attorney won't have that problem
Find your mindset support FIRST — clarity before strategy
You don't have to choose between being a provider and a present parent — you are BOTH

MEMORABLE QUOTES:

"I was a new mom. I had just given birth to my fifth child. And my business was dissolving at the same time as my marriage." — Margarita Eberline

"I didn't have to choose. I could be AND. I could be a present mom AND a provider. That was the breakthrough." — Margarita Eberline

"Divorcing strong means doing it with love — and being happy, being joyful." — Margarita Eberline

ABOUT MARGARITA EBERLINE:

Margarita Eberline is a single mother of five, an entrepreneur, and the founder of Marketing Boss — a data-driven marketing agency supporting law firms and small business owners. After leaving an abusive marriage, navigating $150K in debt, and rebuilding her life from the ground up, Margarita became living proof that midlife reinvention is possible at any starting point. Her story is one of radical resilience, strategic rebuilding, and the power of choosing joy after divorce.

CONNECT WITH MARGARITA:

🔗 Marketing Boss — https://margaritaeberline.com/

🔗 Connect with Margarita — https://www.linkedin.com/in/margieeberline/

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🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

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4 months ago

S1:E22 – Rebuilding After Divorce: A Psychotherapist's 5-Stage Roadmap for Women | Oona Metz

Rebuilding after divorce starts with one truth: you have to FEEL it to heal it. In this episode, psychotherapist Oona Metz — author of "Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women" and a 30-year veteran of divorce recovery support — shares her 5-Stage Roadmap for healing after divorce, and why skipping even one stage will keep you emotionally stuck long after the papers are signed.

Oona has spent 15 years running in-person divorce support groups for women. She didn't just study grief after divorce — she lived it. Her personal experience, combined with three decades of clinical expertise, gives this episode a rare combination: professional credibility and raw, honest vulnerability that will make you feel less alone in every stage of your process.

Host Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, brings her own powerful story — losing 130 pounds, leaving her career, and navigating divorce in the same month — to this conversation about divorce recovery for women, emotional healing, and what it truly means to be Divorcing Strong.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

✅ Oona's 5 Stages of Divorce Grief — and the exact warning signs you're skipping one

✅ Why "The Rollercoaster" is the longest stage and how to survive it without burning out your support system

✅ The self-care practices that don't cost a dime (and why perfectionism makes it worse)

✅ The one thing Oona wished she had during her own divorce — and how it changed her entire career

✅ How to communicate with a high-conflict ex — the BIFF method, Our Family Wizard, and the "separate email box" strategy

✅ How to draft every message to your ex as if a judge will read it — because they might

✅ How language shapes your divorce outcome — and the "peace linguistics" approach that can protect you legally and emotionally

✅ Why "letting go" doesn't mean forgetting — it means freeing up your energy for YOU 2.0

✅ The moment Becky knew she had to rebuild her whole life — and what finally gave her permission to start

OONA'S 5 STAGES OF DIVORCE GRIEF:

Heartbreak — The loss of dreams, promises, and identity
The Rollercoaster — Unpredictable emotions triggered by dates, places, and even weather
Mending — Shifting focus from your ex to yourself
Letting Go — Releasing your ex, the narrative, expectations, and old identity
Moving On — Investing your energy into the new version of your life 6.

MEMORABLE QUOTE:

"When somebody is strong, somebody is willing to ask for help. Asking for help does not mean you are weak — it means you are strong." — Oona Metz

"You have to feel it to heal it." — Oona Metz

ABOUT OONA METZ: Oona Metz is a licensed psychotherapist with over 30 years of clinical experience specializing in divorce recovery for women. She is the founder of a long-running divorce support group program and the author of "Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women," your comprehensive roadmap for healing after divorce — from heartbreak to becoming the boldest version of yourself. Having navigated her own divorce, Oona brings both professional expertise and deeply personal insight to every conversation about life after divorce.

OONA'S RESOURCES:

📗 "Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women" — https://www.amazon.com/Unhitched-Essential-Divorce-Guide-Women/dp/1668075385

🔗 Connect with Oona Metz — https://www.linkedin.com/in/oona-metz-licsw-cgp-6a14a41b/

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🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

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4 months ago

S1:E21 – How to Survive Divorce Without Losing Everything | Divorce Journalist Illysa Panitz

Divorce tips from a journalist who covered it for 25 years — and then lived it herself. In this episode, learn how to survive divorce without losing everything, starting with the #1 financial mistake women make: hiring an attorney before you're financially prepared.

Divorce journalist Illysa Panitz — creator of The Divorce Hour (nationally syndicated radio, streaming on Spotify, Amazon, Audible, and 14 platforms) and Why Through Divorce (streaming in 100+ countries on Roku and Your Home TV) — joins host Becky Sampson to break down the divorce process explained through the lens of two decades of reporting and her own personal journey.

This is your divorce financial planning playbook — and it starts with a counter-intuitive truth: the attorney comes LAST, not first.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

✅ Why calling a divorce attorney first is your biggest (and most expensive) mistake

✅ What a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) is — and why you need one before you file

✅ How to build your "divorce team": attorneys, CDFAs, therapists, and mediators working FOR you

✅ Divorce financial planning 101: assets, debts, income, and expenses — know yours BEFORE you lawyer up

✅ Why anger toward your ex is literally costing you money — and how to stop the financial bleed

✅ The truth about how common high-conflict divorce really is (hint: it's only 18–20% of cases)

✅ The Wizard of Oz framework for navigating your divorce journey — and who plays each role

✅ How to "interview" professionals before hiring them — treat it like dating, not desperation

✅ How to reframe divorce from failure to a powerful "do-over" and the start of YOU 2.0

MEMORABLE MOMENT:

"The most common thing I hear is, 'I'm filing for divorce, and I need your attorney.' And I'm like, no, no, no, no, no. That is your biggest mistake." — Illysa Panitz

ABOUT ILLYSA PANITZ:

Illysa Panitz is a nationally recognized divorce journalist with a 25-year media career. She is the creator and host of The Divorce Hour — a nationally syndicated radio show now streaming on Spotify, Amazon Music, Audible, and 14 platforms — and Why Through Divorce, a streaming TV series available on Your Home TV and Roku in over 100 countries. Her mission: to fill the gap in mainstream media by giving women real education, honest resources, and strategic guidance through the divorce process.

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🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

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4 months ago

S1:E20 – Protecting Yourself in Divorce: What a Texas Family Law Attorney Reveals About Child Custody, CPS & Hidden Assets | Tess House

Protecting yourself in divorce, child custody tips, and the inside story of how family court really works — Texas family law attorney Artessia "Tess" House, founder of Tess House Law and a Super Lawyers–rated attorney as seen on CNN and Forbes, joins Becky Sampson on the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast to deliver the most practical legal playbook for families navigating custody battles, CPS investigations, hidden assets, and high-conflict divorce.

Tess House didn't start her career in a courtroom. She started in a classroom. As a teacher, she once found a child hiding — scared, silent, powerless — and felt completely unable to help. That moment of helplessness changed everything. She went to law school to make sure no parent or child would ever have to stand before a judge unprepared and unprotected again. Today, her San Antonio-based firm handles some of Texas's most complex family law cases — and in this conversation, she hands you the insider knowledge most people don't get until it's too late.

The central truth Tess delivers: "Court is not about the truth. It's about what you can prove." And once you understand that — once you stop operating on feelings and start operating on facts, documentation, and strategy — everything changes. Becky reinforces this with her own story of creating a detailed spreadsheet for her child's custody case, turning lived chaos into documented evidence that a judge could understand and act on.

Whether you're facing a custody battle, navigating a CPS investigation, trying to uncover hidden assets, or just trying to understand how to walk into family court without getting destroyed — this episode is your playbook.

🔑 What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Why "the truth" is not enough in family court — and what you actually need to win
How to document everything in a custody or divorce case so a judge can follow it — Becky's personal spreadsheet method
What triggers a CPS investigation in a divorce — and how to protect yourself if one is filed against you
How money trails work in divorce: why hidden assets are rarely hidden for long and how discovery uncovers them
The child custody battle mistakes parents make that silently destroy their credibility with judges
How to choose a family law attorney who will actually fight for you — not just bill you
What "aggressive representation" really means — and when it helps vs. when it backfires
How to control your behavior, appearance, and communication to maintain credibility throughout a high-conflict case
What CPS actually looks for — and how to present yourself as the safe, stable parent
Why your opponent's bad behavior doesn't automatically help you — and what does
Tess's definition of "Divorcing Strong": understanding the process deeply enough to feel empowered, not just to survive it

💡 This Episode Is For You If:

You're in a custody battle or about to be — and you feel outmatched
You're worried about a CPS investigation being used as a weapon against you
You suspect your spouse is hiding assets and want to know what you can actually do about it
You're in a high-conflict divorce and your emotions keep getting in the way of your strategy
You want to understand how to present yourself in family court before you walk in unprepared
You need to know what to look for — and what to run from — when hiring a family law attorney

🎙️ About Our Guest: Artessia "Tess" House is the founder and lead attorney of Tess House Law, PLLC, based in San Antonio, Texas. Rated by Super Lawyers and featured on CNN and Forbes, Attorney House is a fierce advocate for families navigating divorce, child custody disputes, CPS investigations, child support, protective orders, and parental rights termination. Before becoming a lawyer, she was a classroom teacher — an experience that fueled her commitment to protecting children and empowering parents who feel unheard by the legal system. Her firm's guiding philosophy: "Our top priority is to tell your side of the story in a way the courts value and understand."

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🎧 About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

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4 months ago

S1:E19 – KIMBERLY LORAH "Growth through Support"

Divorce can make even the strongest person feel untethered—emotionally flooded, uncertain, and alone. In this episode of Divorcing Strong, Becky Sampson (Bulldog Becky Brochovich) sits down with Kimberly Lorah, a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Divorce Coach, to talk about what happens after your world gets turned upside down—and how to rebuild from the inside out.

Kimberly shares her own story: a 23-year marriage, the heartbreak of the life she imagined ending, and the overwhelming reality of single parenthood—while still showing up professionally as a therapist. She opens up about the fear, shame, and isolation that can come with divorce, and why she created Blossom Coaching LLC: to be the support she didn’t feel like she had when she needed it most.

Together, Becky and Kimberly unpack the emotional side of divorce recovery—nervous system overload, fear of the unknown, boundary-setting, and the power of community support. If you’re in the middle of the storm, considering divorce, or rebuilding afterward, this episode will remind you: you matter—and you’re going to be okay.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why divorce can feel like identity loss—and how to reconnect with your authentic self
How fear and “what if” thinking keep people stuck—and how to shift into hope and grounded decision-making
What nervous system overload looks like in divorce (sleep issues, panic, dread, emotional flooding, even hair loss)
Practical regulation tools: mindset work, breathwork, journaling, movement, self-care, and support mapping
Why prepping emotionally before talking to your attorney can save money and reduce overwhelm
The difference between being kind vs. being nice—and how that impacts boundaries
Why boundaries are for you, not the other person—and how to set and hold them without guilt
How to co-parent with less conflict (including low-contact strategies and parenting apps)
Why community matters—and how safe groups help you heal without “horror story” spirals
The real transformation: rediscovering your voice, rebuilding confidence, and stepping into your next chapter

A powerful takeaway

Divorce may end a marriage—but it doesn’t end your life. With the right support, you can move from survival mode to stability, and from heartbreak to rebuilding with courage and intention.

Connect with Kimberly Lorah

Kimberly offers a free consultation and works virtually (based in New Jersey). Her coaching and groups are designed to be a safe place to share, heal, and grow—without judgment.

🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/

👉 Follow Becky on social media:

BECKY SAMPSON

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/

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⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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4 months ago

S1:E18 – JOYCE AYERS "Divorce as Rebirth: Conscious Uncoupling & Healing"

Divorce doesn’t just change your legal status—it can shake your identity, your confidence, and the story you’ve been telling yourself for years. If you’ve been wondering, “Who am I now?” or “How do I stop replaying the past?”—this episode is for you.

In this episode of Divorcing Strong, Becky Sampson (Bulldog Becky Brochovich) sits down with Joyce Ays, a heart-centered divorce coach who helps women move through the emotional aftermath of separation with real tools—not just pep talks. Joyce is certified in Conscious Uncoupling and trained in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and hypnosis, and she teaches women how to stop living from old patterns, release the “lost dream,” and rebuild a life rooted in truth, self-trust, and purpose.

This conversation goes deep into what rebirth after divorce actually looks like—emotionally, mentally, and spiritually—especially for women who have spent years people-pleasing, staying quiet, or losing themselves inside roles like wife, mom, and caretaker.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why divorce can feel like an identity collapse—and how to rebuild your “North Star”
How patterns formed early in life (often ages 0–7) show up in marriage and divorce
What “rebirth” means in real life: grief, release, self-forgiveness, and reclaiming your voice
Why staying in the victim story can feel easier—and how to gently move into responsibility without shame
How NLP helps you disassociate from trauma, shift perspective, and rewrite the emotional imprint of the past
Why healing doesn’t require dragging pain out for years—and how to move through it with compassion
The difference between being “guarded” vs. being wise with boundaries
What to do when you feel stuck in bitterness or tethered to your ex—years after the divorce
The truth about the fear: “I’m not healed enough to date again”—and why building trust in yourself comes first
How to stop repeating the same relationship dynamics by filling the “void” with intention, not fear

🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

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4 months ago

S1:E17 – LISA LISSER "The BeH2O™ Method: How to Co-Parent Like Teammates, Not Enemies"

Holidays can be one of the hardest times to co-parent—because old traditions, big emotions, and “alternate schedules” can trigger conflict fast. That’s why this episode matters.

In this special day-before-Thanksgiving episode of Divorcing Strong, Becky Sampson (Bulldog Becky Brochovich) sits down with Lisa Lisser, founder of LZL Coaching and creator of the BEH2O Co-Parenting Program—a structured, values-driven method designed to turn reactive co-parenting into a calmer, more collaborative partnership that protects the kids.

Lisa is a former attorney turned educator, mediator, spiritual counselor, and divorce coach. As a divorced mom of three (now grown), she shares what she wishes she’d known when her own children were 11, 14, and 16—and how “Disney parenting,” inconsistent rules, and unresolved conflict can quietly destabilize kids even when parents mean well. Her approach is clear: divorce isn’t what hurts children most—conflict is. And the good news? It often only takes one parent to shift the entire family dynamic.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why holidays can amplify triggers—and how to stay grounded through them
What BEH2O means (flexible strength + adaptable calm) and how the program works
How co-parents can build shared values across two homes (without controlling the other house)
Why you don’t need veto power—you need agreements and a system
The core tool that changes everything: The Power of the Pause
How triggers work biologically (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) and how to interrupt the cycle
How to use Nonviolent Communication and “I feel…” statements without blame
Why anger is often a “cover emotion” and what’s underneath it
A simple communication framework Lisa teaches: CLEAR > Concise - Listener-ready - Essential - Appropriate - Relevant
Why kids sometimes tell you what they think you want to hear—and how to keep your side of the road clean so they feel safe
How co-parenting can become transformational—when you align behavior with your values (peace, safety, reliability, consistency)

🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/

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BECKY SAMPSON

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🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺

⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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4 months ago

S1:E16 – RAVIT ROSE "The Divorce Game: Know the Rules to WIN the Game"

Divorce Tips from a Divorce Coach Who Spent $100K Learning the Hard Way | Ravit Rose on the Divorce Game, Divorce Without a Lawyer & the Mindset Shift That Changes Everything

Divorce tips, divorce coach strategies, and the brutal truth about navigating divorce without losing everything — Ravit Rose, the Divorce Scientist and founder of Irooze, joins Becky Sampson on the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast to reveal what she learned after spending over $100,000 on a nasty divorce — and how she turned that pain into a system that's helping parents across the U.S. and Canada protect their families, their finances, and their sanity.

Here's what nobody tells you when you file for divorce: the system isn't designed to protect your family. It's designed to process your case. And unless someone shows you the rules of the game before you walk into that courtroom, you will lose — not because you're wrong, but because you didn't know how to play. Ravit Rose learned this the hardest way possible. Fifteen years ago, she was a devoted mother and entrepreneur who believed her divorce would be simple. It wasn't. It cost her six figures, years of conflict, and nearly everything she'd built. But instead of staying broken, she became obsessed with understanding why the system fails families — and she built a better way.

In this episode, Ravit breaks down her signature philosophy: "The success of your divorce will start and end with you." She explains why divorce is 90% mindset and only 10% the legal system, how to approach family court like a strategic game (not an emotional war), when representing yourself is empowering vs. when it's dangerous, and how to stop the financial bleeding before it drains you. Becky also opens up about representing herself in court — twice — adding raw, first-hand credibility to a conversation most podcasts are afraid to have.

Whether you're considering divorce without a lawyer, trapped in a high-conflict case that feels endless, or need someone to tell you the truth about what's ahead — this is the episode that hands you the playbook.

🔑 What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Why Ravit calls divorce a "game" — and why understanding the rules is the difference between winning and being destroyed
The 90/10 rule: how your mindset, preparation, and emotional discipline account for 90% of your divorce outcome
What it really means to represent yourself in divorce — when it works, when it backfires, and what to prepare for
How Ravit spent over $100,000 in legal fees before discovering the system wasn't built to protect her family
The IRooze method: how to build a strategic divorce plan that covers legal, financial, emotional, parenting, and life-transition needs — not just courtroom tactics
How to separate your emotions from the business of divorce — Ravit's personal courtroom preparation strategy
Why rushing your divorce out of desperation leads to long-term regrets — and how to slow down strategically
Warning signs that you're escalating a "bloody war" instead of moving toward resolution
Becky's personal story of representing herself in court twice — and what she'd do differently
How Ravit helped a father overcome his fear of single-parenting and step into his power
What "Divorcing Strong" actually means: being smart, methodical, and logical with your eyes on the end goal — not revenge

💡 This Episode Is For You If:

You're thinking about representing yourself in divorce and don't know if it's the right move
You're drowning in legal fees and wondering if there's a smarter way to navigate the process
You're stuck in a high-conflict divorce that feels like it will never end
You need a divorce mindset shift — you know the emotional chaos is costing you, but you can't seem to separate feelings from strategy
You want to understand how family court actually works before you walk in unprepared
You're looking for a divorce coach or mentor and want to know what that kind of support actually looks like

🎙️ About Our Guest: Ravit Rose is the Divorce Scientist and Founder of Irooze, a platform that matches divorcing parents with vetted professionals across legal, financial, emotional, physical, and life-transition needs. She holds a Bachelor of Commerce with a specialization in Marketing and Entrepreneurship & Small Business Management, along with a Human Resources Certificate. After her own six-figure, high-conflict divorce, Ravit spent over a decade studying divorce from every angle — legal, emotional, and psychological — and authored Unwanted Nasty Divorces (available on Amazon & Kindle) to expose the hidden pitfalls of the traditional system. Irooze serves parents contemplating, navigating, or healing from divorce across the U.S. and Canada through coaching, a free self-assessment, and a curated Divorce Directory of resolution-focused professionals. 🔗 Learn more:

Irooze — Meet Ravit Rose

RavitRose.com

🎧 About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/

👉 Follow Becky on social media:

BECKY SAMPSON

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/