If you keep leaving conversations with your spouse feeling spun, blamed, and breathless — like you've said everything and been heard by no one — this episode is going to change something inside you.

Becky Sampson sits down with Erin Snow, Transformative Listening Strategist, legal advocate, and founder of Sea Coast Listening Lounge, to reveal the one thing most high-conflict divorce survivors are missing: not better arguments, not smarter legal strategy — but the experience of being truly heard. With 16+ years as a frontline legal advocate for survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking — and as the first paralegal in New Hampshire to represent her own clients directly in family court — Erin has built her life's work around a radical idea: being heard isn't a luxury. It's a turning point.

If emotional abuse, coercive control, or a high-conflict marriage has left you guarded, raw, or shut down — this episode is a deep exhale.

🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• Why you feel unheard even when you're talking — the difference between someone listening at you versus listening for you, and what that gap costs you in high-conflict divorce
• The "how do you want me to listen?" question — Erin's signature approach that immediately shifts the power dynamic in any professional relationship, and the red flag to watch for when the professional doesn't ask it
• What coercive control does to your voice — how years of emotional abuse and gaslighting train you to stop telling the full truth because it feels like no one can hold it
• The physical experience of being heard — what changes in your body, your decisions, and your relationships when you finally feel safe enough to say everything out loud without performing strength
• Sea Coast Listening Lounge — Erin's confidential, non-clinical sanctuary where women in divorce can let it out, sort it out, and reclaim their narrative without judgment, without fixing, and without being told what to do
• Erin's personal story — a survivor of childhood sexual abuse who resisted letting her trauma become her calling, and the moment she realized her wound was actually her superpower
• The "buffet" approach to legal support — why the best attorneys, mediators, and advocates show you all the options and trust you to choose, not dictate your path — and why "my way or the highway" is a red flag worth walking away from
• How the justice system fails domestic violence survivors — case reviews that happen too late, listeners who weren't listening, and the systemic communication breakdown Erin has spent 16 years trying to fix
• How to interview a professional and know it's a right fit — the one conversation that reveals whether your attorney, coach, or mediator will fight with you or just fight for their own agenda
• Why "be patient, it's a process" is not dismissal — it's permission — Becky's reminder that grieving divorce takes longer than the world around you will give you credit for, and why that's okay

💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free

🎙️ About Erin Snow:

Erin Snow is a Transformative Listening Strategist and the founder of Sea Coast Listening Lounge — a safe, confidential, non-clinical space where women navigating divorce, emotional abuse, and life transitions can be truly heard without judgment, without being fixed, and without performing strength. A survivor herself, Erin spent 16+ years on the frontlines of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking advocacy in New Hampshire — working her way from paralegal to Director of the Domestic Violence Project at a legal aid organization, and ultimately becoming the first paralegal in the state of New Hampshire authorized to represent her own clients directly in family court. Her lived experience and legal expertise converge in a singular mission: to ensure that no woman going through one of the hardest moments of her life has to face it feeling unheard.

Connect with ERIN SNOW

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seacoastlisteninglounge/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/seacoastlisteninglounge

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@seacoastlisteninglounge

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-snow-237998334/

About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: 

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/

👉 Follow Becky on social media:

BECKY SAMPSON

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⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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If your stomach drops every time you check your credit score because you don't trust what your spouse is doing behind closed doors — this episode could save you years of financial pain.

Becky Sampson sits down with Jim Smith, partner and co-founder of Fair Credit Attorneys, to deliver the credit protection playbook every woman needs before, during, and after divorce. With 20 years of experience holding credit bureaus, banks, and debt collectors accountable — and 14 years litigating nationwide consumer class actions — Jim has seen every way a high-conflict or financially abusive ex can wreck your credit report without you ever knowing. And more importantly, he knows exactly how to stop it, reverse it, and protect your fresh start.

That application denial you're dreading — for housing, a car loan, or a new lease — doesn't have to be your story. But only if you know what to look for right now.

🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• The first thing to do the moment divorce becomes a possibility — pull all three credit reports (Equifax, Experian, TransUnion) from annualcreditreport.com and establish a baseline before your ex has any reason to act strategically
• Joint accounts vs. authorized user accounts — the critical legal distinction that determines whether your ex's financial behavior will haunt YOUR credit report for years, and what to do about each one during the divorce proceeding
• The 22-year student loan bomb: a real case where a divorce decree assigned debt to a wife — but the ex-husband's credit was still destroyed two decades later because the creditor never cared what the court said
• Why a divorce decree does NOT protect your credit — creditors go back to the original signed agreement, not your court order, and why ignoring this gap can cost you enormously
• How to remove yourself as an authorized user — and why you cannot do it yourself; it must be negotiated into the divorce settlement before the decree is signed
• The free credit review Jim's firm offers — a no-hard-inquiry, item-by-item credit report analysis specifically designed for people in divorce, at zero cost
• Credit report errors under the Fair Credit Reporting Act — what triggers a legitimate dispute, when the credit bureaus fail their investigation duty, and when it's time to bring a lawsuit to force the correction
• The real-world consequences of damaged credit in divorce — blocked housing applications, employment background check failures, inability to get transportation — and how credit sabotage becomes another tool of financial abuse in high-conflict marriages
• When to look at your credit a second time — at the end of the divorce — to catch any last-minute authorized user accounts or joint liabilities that slipped through
• How Jim collaborates with family law attorneys and financial professionals to close the gap between the legal decree and the actual credit file — so your fresh start isn't sabotaged before it even begins

💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free

🎙️ About Jim Smith:

Jim Smith is a partner and co-founder of Fair Credit Attorneys, a nationally recognized consumer protection law firm dedicated to correcting credit reporting errors and pursuing real relief when those errors cause real-life harm. With 20 years of experience holding credit reporting agencies, banks, and debt collectors accountable — including 14 years litigating consumer class actions nationwide — Jim found his calling in the Fair Credit Reporting Act: a legal framework where he could fight for people who had done nothing wrong but were being penalized anyway. Since launching Fair Credit Attorneys in 2019, Jim has made it a priority to collaborate with family law attorneys and financial planners, specifically when divorce, identity theft, and credit damage intersect — ensuring his clients are never blocked from housing, employment, or the clean financial start they deserve.

Connect with JIM SMITH

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fair.creditattorneys

Facebook: ​​https://www.facebook.com/faircreditattorney/followers 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-smith-722366135/

Website: https://faircreditattorneys.com/

About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: 

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/

👉 Follow Becky on social media:

BECKY SAMPSON

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TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong

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⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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If you've survived the paperwork but you still feel like you're disappearing — like the marriage ended, but so did the version of you that knew who she was — this episode is your turning point.

Becky Sampson sits down with Justin Milrad, Certified Divorce Coach, author of YOU 2.0: Divorce a Better Way Forward, and founder of Reclaim and Reboot, to deliver the blueprint for not just surviving divorce — but designing the most intentional, powerful version of your life on the other side. A father of three who lived through a seven-figure, 8-day jury trial divorce he describes as "11 out of 10 terrible," Justin knows the terrain from both sides of the table. And what he built from the wreckage is exactly what he's sharing with you today.

This is not a conversation about getting through divorce. This is a roadmap for growing through it — and coming out clearer, stronger, and more aligned than before.

🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• The YOU 2.0 model — why trying to go back to life "as it was before" is the single biggest trap in divorce recovery, and how to design the next version of yourself with intention at 9, 12, and 18 months out
• The sobering financial reality — women are 41% worse off financially after divorce, men are 27% worse off — and the specific mediation prep steps that protect you before you sign anything
• Why Justin spent 7 figures on a divorce that started amicably — and the single decision he made that he believes triggered the entire collapse
• The 8-week shift from victim to survivor — what Justin's fiancée learned from her divorce coach that took her from stuck to thriving, and why it became his life mission
• Radical acceptance in divorce — the apology you're waiting for is never coming, and why accepting that truth is the fastest path to reclaiming your power
• Co-parenting done right — why Justin calls being a parent "the greatest job on earth" and how he and his ex went from an 8-day courtroom war to what he describes as an A+ co-parenting relationship
• The divorce team blueprint — attorney, divorce coach, therapist, financial planner, and subpoena experts — who does what, why you need all of them, and why calling your attorney first is one of the most expensive mistakes you can make
• The 4-hour co-parenting class Justin wished had been the first thing his attorney gave him — and what he now does with every single client before anything else
• The mediation blind spots most attorneys miss — college costs, car insurance for the kids, braces, extracurriculars — and how a divorce coach fills that gap without the hourly rate of a lawyer
• Hope from the other side — Justin is engaged. Becky is happily married. Life after divorce is not just possible. It's waiting for you.

💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free

🎙️ About Justin Milrad:

Justin Milrad is a Certified Divorce Coach, serial entrepreneur, author of YOU 2.0: Divorce a Better Way Forward, and founder of Reclaim and Reboot. A father of three with an MBA and a background in financial planning, Justin brings a rare dual lens to divorce coaching — blending the practical (budgets, mediation prep, team building) with the deeply personal (radical acceptance, identity rebuilding, co-parenting). After living through one of the most contentious divorces imaginable and discovering the life-changing impact of divorce coaching through his now-fiancée, he made it his mission to ensure no one navigates this terrain alone — or unprepared.

Connect with JUSTIN MILRAD

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reclaimandreboot.me/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReclaimAndReboot

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinmilrad/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ReclaimAndReboot

Website: https://reclaimandreboot.me/

About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: 

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/

👉 Follow Becky on social media:

BECKY SAMPSON

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/

TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/

🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺

⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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If you've been white-knuckling your way through divorce because you're convinced keeping the house is the only thing holding your life together — stop. Before you sign anything, before you tell your attorney, "I want the house," you need to hear this episode.

Becky Sampson sits down with Melissa Murphy Pavone, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and Certified Financial Planner (CFP), founder of Mindful Financial Partners, to break down the real numbers, the hidden costs, and the financial decisions that will define your life long after the divorce decree is signed. With 18 years of financial guidance and a decade specializing in divorce financial planning, Melissa is the calm, clear voice women need when the math feels terrifying and the emotions feel louder.

This is not just about the house. This is about your financial future — and how to protect it.

🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• The three-pronged divorce team — emotional support, financial support, and legal support — and why calling your attorney first is one of the most expensive mistakes you can make
• The Golden Handcuffs problem: why those COVID-era 2.5–3% interest rates are driving some of the most emotionally charged (and financially dangerous) house decisions women make in divorce
• The marital home decision tree — all three paths: sell and split, one spouse buys out the other, or "nesting" — and the real-world math behind each option
• Capital gains tax and home improvements — the questions your financial advisor must ask before your divorce settlement is finalized (and why most people get annoyed when asked)
• The five financial clarity pillars you must know before negotiating: what you own, what you owe, what you earn, what you spend, and your credit score
• Why "I'm keeping the house no matter what" is the most dangerous sentence in a divorce — and how to pressure-test that decision with real what-if financial scenarios
• How to look at every financial decision through the lens of your children — a reframe that removes the resentment and brings clarity to even the hardest choices
• Why Melissa — a New York State licensed mediator — refuses to do a full mediation alone, and what that integrity tells you about who you want on your team
• Melissa's upcoming book on designing your divorce team — and the blueprint she uses to keep professionals in their lanes so you don't blow your budget

💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free

🎙️ About Melissa Murphy Pavone:

Melissa Murphy Pavone is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Certified Financial Planner (CFP), and New York State-licensed mediator. She is the founder of Mindful Financial Partners, where she brings 18+ years of financial guidance to individuals navigating the emotional and financial complexity of divorce. A child of divorce herself, Melissa is driven by a deeply personal mission: to ensure the women she works with make financial decisions with both their heart and their head — so their futures remain protected. She has been specializing in divorce financial planning since 2015.

Connect with MELISSA MURPHY PAVONE

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissampavone/?hl=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.murphy.108889

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissamurphypavone/

Website: https://mindfulfinancialpartners.com/

Website: https://mindfuldivorcepartners.com/

About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: 

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/

👉 Follow Becky on social media:

BECKY SAMPSON

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🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺

⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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If your divorce has turned your phone into a battlefield — where one text from your ex can spike your anxiety and ruin your entire day — this episode is your playbook.

Becky Sampson sits down with Kiki Grossman, Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator and attorney, to deliver the exact strategies that stop high-conflict divorce communication spirals before they cost you more money, more time, and more emotional energy. Whether you're divorcing a narcissist, navigating co-parenting after separation, or stuck in the same fight on repeat — this episode gives you the tools to stop reacting and start responding.

🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• The BIFF Method (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) — the gold standard for responding to hostile, manipulative, or emotionally charged messages from a high-conflict or narcissistic ex
• The Pause Practice — a deceptively simple but powerful tool to stop the text spiral before you send something you'll regret
• Why your nervous system is wired to vilify your ex — and the neuroscience behind why your chest tightens, and your brain goes blank during conflict
• How your conflict style shifts depending on who you're fighting with — and what to do when you're stuck in avoidance mode
• The Brené Brown "strengths perspective" exercise for building real conflict capacity — without shame
• Why Kiki went from art major and yoga instructor to law school — and what her journey reveals about healing after divorce
• The "No Mud, No Lotus" mindset shift that turns your divorce pain into a springboard for growth
• How Leapfrog Divorce can be a faster, less destructive alternative to traditional litigation
• The one thing you must do before you can stop objectifying your ex — and why it matters for your outcome

💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free

🎙️ About Kiki Grossman:

Kiki Grossman is a conflict-navigation educator, psychological-safety builder, Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, and member of the Florida Bar. She holds an LLM from the Strauss Institute for Dispute Resolution at Pepperdine University and brings over 30 years of trauma-informed yoga practice to her conflict resolution work. She is the founder of Leapfrog Divorce and Leapfrog Conflict Resolution, working to create smoother resolutions for families navigating high-conflict divorce — without the courtroom warfare.

Connect with KIKI GROSSMAN

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leap_frog_divorce/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leapfrogdivorce/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristin-grossman/

YouTube: www.youtube.com/@leapfrogdivorce

Website: https://leapfrogconflictresolution.com/

About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: 

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/

👉 Follow Becky on social media:

BECKY SAMPSON

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🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺

⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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What if your spouse is hiding money in a place your attorney has never even looked?

Cryptocurrency and digital assets have become the newest frontier of financial infidelity in divorce — and most attorneys have no idea how to find them, trace them, or value them. 

Illinois divorce attorney Kyle Sellett is one of the rare experts who does. In fact, he teaches other attorneys how to handle crypto in divorce cases. And today, he's teaching you.

Whether you're deep in a high-conflict divorce and suspect your spouse is hiding digital assets, trying to understand your divorce financial planning options, or simply want to protect what's yours before it vanishes into a blockchain — this episode is the conversation your attorney probably hasn't had with you yet.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• ✅ What cryptocurrency actually is — explained in plain English, no technical background required (blockchain, mining, wallets, and why it's called "digital gold")
• ✅ The three types of crypto storage your spouse might be using — hot wallets, cold wallets, and hardware wallets — and why each one creates a different discovery challenge for your attorney
• ✅ The real story: how someone lost millions of dollars in Bitcoin because of a single lost hard drive — and what this means for your divorce settlement
• ✅ The exact tactics spouses use to conceal cryptocurrency assets — and the red flags Kyle looks for to unmask them
• ✅ How the discovery process works for hidden crypto assets: subpoenas, forensic analysis, and when to bring in a specialist (and when it's NOT worth the cost)
• ✅ The cost-benefit analysis every woman must run before hiring a forensic crypto expert — Kyle's practical framework for deciding if it's worth pursuing
• ✅ The Practitioner Checklist — Kyle's step-by-step action plan for identifying, locating, and valuing digital assets in any divorce case
• ✅ Why Kyle personally prefers mediation and collaborative divorce strategies over litigation — and how this philosophy can save you money even in a high-conflict case
• ✅ The legal standard for dissipation and concealment of crypto assets — and how courts are now treating intentional cryptocurrency hiding as a serious financial offense
• ✅ Kyle's own definition of what it means to "Divorce Strong" — a perspective that will shift how you think about coming out the other side

Memorable moments:

"I started learning about crypto because I had to teach a CLE. And then I realized — nobody in family law knew this stuff." — Kyle Sellett

"Coming out the other side, understanding what happened, accepting it, and being able to move past it. That's what Divorcing Strong means." — Kyle Sellett

"The question isn't just whether your spouse has crypto. The question is — do you know where to look?" — Becky Sampson

Whether you're newly separated and overwhelmed, deep in a high-conflict divorce involving hidden assets, or healing after divorce and trying to make sense of what you may have missed — this episode hands you the knowledge to protect what's yours. You are not just surviving. You are becoming YOU 2.0.

💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free

About Kyle Sellett:

Kyle Sellett is an Illinois divorce and family law attorney who has become one of the leading legal voices on the intersection of cryptocurrency and divorce proceedings. As one of the few attorneys who actively teaches other family law practitioners how to handle digital assets in divorce cases — through CLEs and professional training — Kyle brings a rare combination of technical crypto knowledge and practical courtroom experience. He is a passionate advocate for mediation and collaborative approaches that keep clients in control of their outcomes.

Connect with KYLE SELLETT

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WeissKunzOliverLLC/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kylesellett/
• Website: https://www.wkofamilylaw.com/attorney-profiles/kyle-sellett/

About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: 

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/

👉 Follow Becky on social media:

BECKY SAMPSON

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/

TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/

🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺

⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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Women and money in divorce — it's the conversation nobody prepared you for, and it may be the most expensive conversation you'll ever have. 

Before you sign a single document, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) Rhonda Noordyk, Financial Divorce Advocate and founder of The Women's Financial Wellness Center, wants you to know the 5 money traps that are silently costing divorcing women thousands — and the 6-step settlement framework she's used to move over $25 million into the hands of women who would have left it on the table.

From divorce financial planning and financial infidelity detection to hidden asset exposure and negotiation strategy, Rhonda joins host Becky Sampson to give you the financial playbook your attorney may never hand you — and the confidence to walk into your settlement knowing you have all the information you need.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• ✅ The 5 money traps silently draining women's divorce settlements — and how to identify every single one before you sign
• ✅ Rhonda's BRIDGE Method (Breathe, Review, Identify, Dial In, Guide, Exhale) — the 6-step framework for navigating your divorce settlement with clarity instead of panic
• ✅ The DAMN Method — Rhonda's red-flag detection system for spotting financial deception and financial infidelity before it destroys your settlement
• ✅ Why women are systematically labeled "overly emotional" in family court when they raise valid financial concerns — and the bias Rhonda has witnessed firsthand inside the legal system
• ✅ The shocking discovery process loophole: why a subpoena is sometimes the only way to get the full financial picture — and why your attorney may not be fighting hard enough to get it
• ✅ How the "stay quiet, stay agreeable" trap keeps women from asking for what they're legally entitled to — and the one mindset shift that changes everything
• ✅ Becky's personal story: the moment of "absolute panic" during her own second divorce, when she realized she had no idea where the money was
• ✅ What a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) actually does — and why hiring one may be the most financially protective decision you make in your entire divorce
• ✅ The creative negotiation move that saved one client's settlement when life insurance was denied: a lien on the estate — and how to ask for it
• ✅ The equation that unlocks everything: Knowledge + Experience = Confidence — and how to get both before you ever sit down at the settlement table

Memorable moments:

"You do not have to settle without all the information on the table. Period." — Becky Sampson

"We've moved over $25 million into the hands of women who would have left it on the table." — Rhonda Noordyk

"Having the right information to make good decisions — that's what Divorcing Strong means." — Rhonda Noordyk

"I don't pay you to think." — What a client's husband told her, illustrating exactly why financial knowledge is power in divorce

Whether you're in the early stages of divorce financial planning, deep in a high-conflict settlement, or healing after divorce and trying to understand what you may have unknowingly signed away — this episode is your financial protection playbook. You are not just surviving. You are becoming YOU 2.0.

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About Rhonda Noordyk: 

Rhonda Noordyk is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Financial Divorce Advocate, and founder of The Women's Financial Wellness Center. With years of experience helping women navigate the financial complexities of divorce, Rhonda has moved over $25 million into the hands of women who would otherwise have left it on the settlement table. She is the host of the Divorce Dialogues podcast and a tireless advocate for women's financial literacy, empowerment, and independence through and beyond divorce.

Connect with RHONDA NOORDYK

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rhondanoordyk/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wfwcdivorce/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rhondanoordyk/
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RhondaNoordyk
• Website: https://womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/

🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: 

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

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What if the biggest mistake in your divorce isn't hiring the wrong attorney — it's not knowing how to navigate family courts yourself?

Healing after divorce starts with protecting yourself in the courtroom, and former family law attorney Tracey Bee, known as The Divorce Solutionist, is pulling back the curtain on everything the legal system won't volunteer. Whether you're facing child custody battles, going through a divorce without a lawyer, or trying to figure out how to win in family court without getting steamrolled — this episode is your strategic playbook.

With years of experience inside the family court system and her own pivot away from law after witnessing its toll on families firsthand, Tracey Bee now coaches women to represent themselves strategically, understand the "game" of court, and walk out with outcomes that protect their children and their future.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• ✅ The single most important mindset shift every woman must make before she walks into a family courtroom — from "concerned mom" to litigant (and why getting this wrong costs you everything)
• ✅ Why family court is a "game" with rules nobody hands you — and exactly how to learn them before your first hearing
• ✅ The #1 reason Tracey left her family law career — and the judge's warning she received on Day 1 that predicted it all
• ✅ How to "study your opponent" — researching your judge's tendencies, opposing counsel's patterns, and the unwritten rules of your specific courtroom
• ✅ The dangerous mistake Becky made when she represented herself: trying to act like a lawyer — and what to do instead
• ✅ Why rushing to hire a divorce attorney in the shock/denial phase of divorce is often the worst financial decision you can make
• ✅ Practical child custody tips: how to document, communicate, and present yourself as the stable, strategic parent the court wants to see
• ✅ The difference between "process" and "law" — and why understanding this distinction changes everything for self-represented litigants
• ✅ How to protect your mental health and nervous system while simultaneously fighting the legal battle of your life
• ✅ The powerful reframe that defines what "Divorcing Strong" really means: "This is not what's happening to you — it's what's happening for you."

Memorable moments:

"Family court is a game. You have to understand the game to win the game." — Tracey Bee

"Don't rush to hire an attorney in your shock phase. Do some of your own legwork first." — Tracey Bee

"I tried to act like a lawyer. That was my biggest mistake." — Becky Sampson

Whether you're newly separated and facing family court for the first time, deep in a high-conflict custody battle, or healing after divorce and trying to make sense of what just happened in that courtroom — this episode gives you the strategy, the mindset, and the roadmap to stop flailing and start winning. You are not just surviving. You are becoming YOU 2.0.

💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free

About Tracey Bee, The Divorce Solutionist:

Tracey Bee is a former family law attorney turned divorce coach and strategist, known as The Divorce Solutionist. After years inside the family court system — watching the toll it takes on families and on attorneys — Tracey left traditional law to empower self-represented litigants with the strategies, tools, and mindset they need to navigate divorce without being steamrolled. She is the host of The Divorce Solutionist Podcast and a dedicated advocate for women facing family court alone.

Connect with TRACEY BEE

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcesolutionist/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/familycourtstrategist/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/familycourtstrategist/
• Website: https://thedivorcesolutionist.com

🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: 

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

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BECKY SAMPSON

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⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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What if the most broken chapter of your life became the origin story of your greatest purpose?

After 34 years of marriage, a painful divorce, and a moment of unexpected magic in a grocery store, a retired truck driver with over 3 million miles on the road became Santa Papa John — a full-time professional Santa Claus with 100,000+ social media followers and a mission to bring joy to anyone who's forgotten what it feels like to smile. Life after divorce, midlife reinvention, and starting over at 50 have never looked — or felt — like this.

Santa Papa John joins host Becky Sampson for one of the most joyful, unexpected, and deeply moving conversations in Divorcing Strong™ history. His story of divorce recovery, personal reinvention, and healing after divorce is proof that your second chapter isn't just possible — it might be the one you were always meant to live.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• ✅ How a 34-year marriage ended — and what Santa Papa John wishes he'd known sooner about his own happiness
• ✅ The grocery store moment that changed everything: how two misbehaving children and a bag of candy canes sparked his life's greatest purpose
• ✅ Why his current wife saw something in him he couldn't see in himself — and how the right partner transforms your midlife reinvention
• ✅ The raw truth about growing a beard "to spite" his first wife — and what it taught him about lost identity in a deteriorating marriage
• ✅ Two elderly sisters, ages 68 and 70, sitting on Santa's lap for the first time since childhood — the story that will break you wide open (in the best way)
• ✅ The "Share a Smile" challenge: the one tiny daily action that can begin rebuilding your life after divorce TODAY
• ✅ Why choosing joy is not toxic positivity — it's a survival strategy for divorce recovery and midlife reset
• ✅ How stepping completely out of your comfort zone — including wearing a Santa suit year-round as "July Santa" — can rebuild your confidence and your identity
• ✅ The simple, powerful message Santa Papa John delivers to every adult who sits in his chair: it's never too late to start over

Memorable moments:

"I've got a story!" — Santa Papa John, the moment he heard Becky helped women through divorce

"Share a smile with someone you don't know today. That's all. Just start there." — Santa Papa John

Whether you're freshly separated, deep in your healing after divorce, or standing at the crossroads of a midlife reinvention you didn't plan — this episode is your reminder that rebuilding after divorce can look like something you never expected. You are not just surviving. You are becoming YOU 2.0.

💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free

About Santa Papa John: 

Santa Papa John is a full-time professional Santa Claus, known as "July Santa," with over 100,000 social media followers across platforms where he shares daily messages of joy and positivity. A former long-haul truck driver with over 3 million miles logged and a former DJ, Santa Papa John discovered his calling after his own divorce — when his new wife helped him find the magic he'd buried inside himself. He is now happily remarried and dedicated to creating joyful memories for people of all ages.

Connect with SANTA PAPA JOHN

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/santapapajohn/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/santapapajohnmn/
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SantaPapaJohn
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnrosdobutko/
• Website: https://santapapajohn.com/

🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: 

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

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BECKY SAMPSON

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⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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Healing after divorce begins the moment you realize you have more options than a courtroom battle.

Is a peaceful divorce actually possible — even when things feel broken beyond repair? Can mediation protect your children, your finances, and your future without going to war with your ex?

Florida Family Law Attorney Anthony Diaz, Supreme Court Certified Family Law Mediator and Board Member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, joins host Becky Sampson to show you exactly how the divorce process can look when dignity — not destruction — leads the way.

With a background as a former CPA and Assistant State Attorney, and his own deeply personal divorce story, Anthony reveals the creative legal options most attorneys never tell you about, the rights you have in mediation that could save your settlement, and why the peaceful divorce path may actually be your strongest move.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• ✅ What collaborative divorce and mediation actually mean — and how they're different from what you've been told
• ✅ The "nesting" strategy that lets your children stay in the family home while YOU come and go — and how to negotiate it outside of court
• ✅ The #1 right you have in mediation that nobody tells you: you never have to sign anything on the spot
• ✅ Why a judge can't give you the outcome you actually need — and what the divorce process looks like when you stay out of court
• ✅ The "needs vs. wants" framework that unlocks creative solutions and breaks impasse in mediation
• ✅ How to protect yourself if your spouse is negotiating in bad faith during mediation
• ✅ Why conscious uncoupling isn't just for celebrities — and how regular people use it to protect their families
• ✅ Anthony's raw, personal story of going through his own highly emotional divorce — and how it transformed his entire legal practice
• ✅ The one thing Anthony wants every listener to know: there is hope.

Memorable moment:

"When you get to the 'why' behind things, you open up this whole universe of possibilities." — Anthony Diaz

Whether you're in the early stages of separation, deep in a high-conflict divorce, or trying to find a way to uncouple with grace, this episode is your playbook for taking back control of the divorce process — and walking out stronger on the other side as YOU 2.0.

💌 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free

About Anthony Diaz:

Anthony Diaz is a Florida Divorce Attorney, Supreme Court Certified Family Law Mediator, former CPA, and former Assistant State Attorney. As a Board Member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP), Anthony has dedicated his practice to helping families navigate the divorce process with dignity, creativity, and compassion. Known as "the collaborative peacemaker," he specializes in mediation, collaborative, and uncontested divorce.

Connect with ANTHONY DIAZ

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecollaborativepeacemaker/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AnthonyDiazThePeaceMaker/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/the1peacemaker/
• Website: https://anthonydiazlaw.com/

🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast: 

Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0.

👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies

👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/

👉 Follow Becky on social media:

BECKY SAMPSON

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/

TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/

🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺

⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

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